This IS a great conversation.
I just went on a long walk with Megan and we talked at length about this topic. I kind of wish I had the ability to write down even the smallest of the main points we discussed, but unfortunately, my short term memory doesn't really exist. ...where am I?
To be honest, I think a lot of my feelings on this issue are skewed due to personal experiences, and I am very aware that they might not simply place me in the minority, but perhaps, sometimes a little inappropriately so.
I'm going to attempt to explain my view on money, success and what I feel is the purpose of
my life in a few short (hopefully) paragraphs in an attempt to shed light on why I personally take issue with charging what the market will bear (for anything, not just wedding photos)
despite the fact that I can see, understand and accept 100% the validity of doing so from a business perspective.
To be clear, this is just how
I try look at myself, not others (though it obviously seeps over whenever it feels like it!). In my life, I feel that I will not measure my personal success by how much money I make, or how much status I gain (in a community, business industry, etc.), or how big of a house I have, or how many cars I own (and how fast they go), or any other like-measure. How I hope to measure myself (and hope others do as well) is by what I do with the gifts I have (however small and modest they may be). So for me, money (as often as I can clear my mind to think this way) is simply a thing that you do something with. It isn't the goal, nor is it how I measure my worth or value, success, or place in this world. (Obviously this doesn't happen all the time -- I definitely experience greed on a daily basis!)
And please do not take the above to say that I feel everyone else is totally money-focused. I think that would be a
terrible and extremely close-minded thing for me to assume!!
So... due to the fact that I feel the way I do about money and status, therein lies the greatest discomfort with the mentioned 'status-oriented pricing model'. For me, If I think something is simply worth $3, it is irrelevant to me that someone is willing to pay $7. If it makes them feel better to pay $7 that's great! But I'll still charge $3, and only because it makes me feel good to do so. Do I have a problem with other people fulfilling that $7 need? Absolutely not! Do I think they are wrong for doing so? That depends...
And here's where it gets tricky, so please bear with me and keep an open mind. And please keep reminding yourselves that I am doing my best to sound impartial and even-keeled, even though I may do a very poor job of it! ...and it's not my place to say anything is "wrong" anyway, so perhaps all of what will follow is moot! Oh man.
I think there is nothing wrong with charging $7 for something, even though you think its intrinsic value is $3 (let's establish that the "perceived value" is the markup, or what I would call the fluff, exploit, or status charge). If it fits with your constitution and you aren't compromising any of your beliefs or values in doing so, then more power to you. Charge $7. Charge $170. Heck, charge $1,700,000 if someone will pay it!
However, if you have specific beliefs that you feel are compromised by charging the extra $4 (and really, it's all based on motive), and you do so anyway, for the specific reason that you
can and that it will make you gobs of extra dough, then I think it is very, very difficult to say that it is okay (Bad judger of others!! BAD!).
So: Clearly I have specific beliefs that make me feel that I would be compromising myself to charge
anything above and beyond the intrinsic value of a service or product that I offer. So for me, doing so would be pretty lame and hypocritical. At the same time, and I posed this point to Megan on our walk, I am fully aware that I exist toward the edges of the lunatic fringe when it comes to societal perceptions, opinions, morals and values (or, at least, that is how I see myself). I think it is terribly wrong for me to judge anyone else on this matter, not just because it is improper to do so, but because their is the distinct possibility that my opinions, morals and beliefs are flat out wrong!
Also, I sincerely hope nobody feels offended by what I have said (or will say). My intention is merely to promote dialog, not get up on a podium and spew crazy thoughts. If I have, please do let me know!