... how about both?

I was reading Mike Colón's blog post a couple of days ago 'To Flash or Not to Flash...' in agreement of course since I love Mike's work; I got into wedding photography because of him. Regarding the use of flash I've been following that type of style... but, a couple of hours ago I saw for the first time the work of Cherie Steinberg Cote.
I don't know why I haven't heard of her or seen her work before cause she's amazing!
As you can notice she uses flash/lights a lot in all situations, and when used like that, I dig it too.

I'm not comparing at all, I'm just saying that I like both and I'll try to learn how to do that type of lighting to have the option when shooting. I'm one step closer in the right direction... I shoot Nikon

Do you like her stuff? Do tell.

I say both...but you need to determine for yourself what type of look you're after in each shot. You can only do certain things using one method. Let's face it...there are plenty of great shots out there with and without flash. We all need to find out where we stand within our own tastes. Of course, this is an evolving process (as evidenced by Mike's blog). Some days we'll lean towards no flash...other days will be different.

That's the fun of this job.

I totally agree Floyd.

Mike is a superstar and I respect and admire his talent and abilities to capture those images with no flash. I like that as well, but other things need to be considered. For example, some are blessed with doing outdoor weddings most of the time because of where they live or because they are doing destination weddings in nice places with fabulous weather. A lot of us are not blessed with that, we shoot in dark churches and venues. I just organized a workshop with Neil Cowley in our area, and I admire his work a great deal as well, and he uses strobes to light his receptions. But Neil lives in New York, and most of his clients, by looking at his images, get married in churches which are dark and host the receptions in venues that are equally dark to shoot in. What I learned from Neil is this, it's not about using or not using flash/strobes, it's about making your flash/strobes disappear in the ambient light, as if there were no flash/or strobes.

I used Neil's concepts with my flash on the last wedding I shot a couple of weeks ago, and one of the first comments I got from one of my friends was "how did you light those, it looks like you are not using flash", and yet 95-98% of the images I shot I used flash. On some, you can tell that flash has been used, but most of those are at the reception, where my speedlights were inadequate to fill the 400 people reception venue we were in. So far, my perspective is, I will do what ever is necessary to create compelling images that my clients will be very happy with. My perspective may change in the future, if I become a super star like Mike, but until then, this is my story and I am sticking to it ;-)