so, we ate chinese with some friends last night....

*skip ahead*

i just finished lunch at work and my husband walked in with flowers. attached to them was his fortune from dinner that said "flowers would brighten the day of your close friend tomorrow."

and a reeses cup. which holds a special meaning to us.

soooooo sweet. him. not the candy.

You must not have kids!

awww...that's so sweet!

and amber, i thought it was very sweet. my precious hubby does stuff like that, too!

awwww, yay! 2 points for husband!

dang. he's showing us up. I'll have to be extra sweet to my wife this evening.

no, we don't actually. but i'm certain he will be just as wonderful then. probably even more so. he's always doing things around the house, cooking, cleaning, taking anything off of my shoulders he can so i can work on photography after my day job and/or not be stressed. this was just EXTRA special. he's awesome like that.




yes you should be! but i'm sure you're wonderful daily as mine is.

Awwweeee.... That's sweet.

How incredibly sweet!

Crap! Can't let the wife read this!!!!!

hahahaha! i know. he's a grown up prince charming. forget riding horses into the sunset. he cleans!

i was feeling like a bad wife really because he just takes care of me so much! and our roles are sort of reversed because i also am building smitten on top of my day job. and i do all the bills and balancing the checkbook and budgeting and so forth. we talked about it though and he actually felt he wasn't doing enough either!!! so we agreed that although we're a little reversed, i felt loved and cared for and so did he so it was all good.

he's the most patient, understanding, caring person i know.

gush gush gush.

When you have 20 month old twins the only thing you're giving each other are crappy diapers and letting the other sleep and extra hour on the weekends.....but hey....that's not so bad! LOL!

Sounds to me like you should go buy your wife some flowers.

As a mother of 15 year old twins, it goes a long way when my husband does it.

It goes a long way with moms of 7 year old twins too.

Amber, that was a VERY sweet thing your husband did!!!

Wow, lots of twin mamas around here! I feel like I have twins sometimes (with a 2 year old and a 3 year old) and my hubby ALWAYS does super sweet stuff like that. Rob - go buy your wife some flowers!

That's super sweet. Your hubby rocks!

Hey Rob...stash some flowers in the diaper drawer...I bet your wife would love it!

THANK YOU PEOPLE!

and thank you mommy ladies for saying it's still possible A.B. (after baby). we fully intend on being ooey gooey disgusting the rest of our lives. haha.

and yeah rob! get on board. daddys can romance their wives too!

Things only change as much as you let them. Kids = less sleep, but you just have to make due with what you get. I love dropping flowers off for my wife at her work, or breakfast in bed on the weekends...I'll even snip a rose from my neighbors garden...he doesn't mind. My daughter even gets some from time to time...that makes her day for sure. Our roles are reversed from the typical relationship as well, but we love it and it works for us.

sigh, so very sweet! my hubby should take notes!

Cherish those moments. My hubby just doesn't do things like that. He's not very good at the housework and stuff, either. 8 of the last 9 years of marriage, his idea of "shopping" for me involved going out for dinner (for which I usually end up driving and writing the check) and making me pick out my gift. I flat out told him we're not doing that anymore, and would it kill him to put some thought into my gifts? I honestly don't care WHAT it is, just think of me once in awhile! It could be a box of paperclips for all I care, as long as you noticed that it was something I wanted/needed and that you NOTICED.

Okay, end rant. Can you tell I'm irritated with him today?

Give your hubby a smooch for his thoughtfulness.

Oooooooooh Amber I was only kidding..really!

When you are getting a few ours sleep a night when you have kids, and your hubby says, "Honey stay in bed a couple of extra hours I will deal with the kids." That will be better then any mooshy stuff, flowers at work, etc!
Nothing like sleep when you aren't getting any. <cough> Kind of.

Yep! That was definately cool. Reminds me of days gone by.

You mean sleep right??? <cough> Right?

oohhhh that is so so so so sweet!

+1 million

having kids just means you have to be more intentional, which is very doable. and if he is this sweet now, chances are he will be just as sweet (or sweeter) then.

hahahaha! i had that SAME thought! glad it wasn't just me.



and i knew you were kidding rob! and i know that sleep is a precious precious gift. but take the extra 5 minutes to surprise her with some flowers and i promise if she's anything like me, that extra thought is just...beyond. just pick some up next time you go grocery shopping.

This makes me feel so much better about my life right now! I've been feeling so guilty lately and like such a bad wife because our roles are kind of reversed from the norm right now. But this makes me feel so much better! We've talked about it and he said he didn't mind cleaning and such while I work, but I was still feeling bad.

You shouldn't feel bad. He's doing the right thing. You're not the only one who should clean, do laundry, etc.

Any guy who doesn't help around the house should have a big, fat FedEx label stuck to his big, fat forehead and be shipped back to 1950.

Thanks, Matt We're still newlyweds and trying to get everything figured out haha. It's so helpful to hear from other people. This thread was definitely the encouragement for my day!

I forgot to add... if anyone needs my FedEx number, PM me.

I for sure understand that feeling. The biggest thing is just communicating. If either of us ever feels slighted or not taken care of, we make sure to let each other know. Whatever works for you two is just fine. Just try to let go of "normal." Which was hard for me but has helped.

HAHAHA, you stole the words right out of my mouth. don't MESS with my sleep... you will not like it.