like lynn,
i choose. i design and then i proof the wedding - after the album is released. no proofs for about a week or two.
i've learned over the years that the client wants it ALL... they cannot decide - or at least it's hard for them to decide. and life gets in the way - the wedding is over and they are ready to move, buy a home, start a family. every single client has been thrilled that this is one thing they don't have to worry about (after the wedding). before, they feel too freaked - they want to have all the control. once everything is released the client can make changes. (but i've seen very few) yes, there are still a few that want to change a lot of things, but after they sit with it for a while, they seem to think my design is best - they see that i've chosne the best images, and that i've used them in a way that highlights their style and taste.
i also design with proofs. no retouching until the end. (i do this for album design clients, too.) so if we design an album for you, you may send us images that still need a little retouching, if there are changes, we make the changes, and then retouch what needs to be done. if you want more info, just shoot me a note at... info at wedoodledo dot com.
i'm in the process of writing a fairly comprehensive collection of articles about album design, pricing, and sales. when it's ready, it will be available online. (if you want, sign up for or email list to be notified when it's released.) www.wedoodledo.com.