QUOTE(JasonTench @ March 27 2008, 09:52 AM)

ISO will be controlling the overall sensitivity of your sensor. Not ambient or light of the flash.
Actually Jason, those 2 sentences are a contradiction. If ISO controls the sensitivity of the sensor, then that has a direct impact on the amount of ambient the sensor records, unless I missunderstand your statement.
In simple terms:
Aperture controls your flash exposure - larger aperture, less flash power you need; smaller aperture, more flash power you need
Shutter Speed controls your ambient light - faster shutter speed, less light gets recorded; slower shutter speed, more light gets recorded
ISO AFFECTS BOTH AMBIENT AND FLASH EXPOSURE - higher ISO records more light. Period. No matter if the light comes from your flash or the ambient.
As far as dropping the shutter speed below 1/50 or 1/40 not being good because of motion blurr, that depends on what the subject is. If the subject is a nice skyline of a city, then yes, get a tripod and shoot a several seconds exposure. But if the subject is something else, like a bride and groom, and the skyline behind is the background, I only care to have "the" subject sharp. So I am no afraid to drop my shutter speed to 1/15 or 1/10 when using flash, because under that scenario, which I believe is the same scenario Jennifer is describing, the flash will freeze the subjects. I was just at OSP Indy, in which we had a night shoot, and I shot a couple with the Indianapolis skyline as the background at 1/15 through the whole session. Then I even panned, rotated, and zoomed the camera during the exposure, that caused the lights from the buildings in the back to appear to be moving, but the subject were frozen in the exposure by the flash and were very sharp.
Another thing is that if Jen is going to be in a room, depending on the room size, she may be able to bounce the flash behind her at a high ISO like 800 or more, and create a nice light that fills the room without appearing like it's flash.
Jen, when using flash, don't be afraid to drop your shutter speed to 1/15 or even 1/10. Do try to remain very steady, but it's totally doable.