What is the best thing about starting a new relationship?

Is someone in love?????

I learn so much more about myself with every new relationship that I am blessed with.

no time for that nonsense right now...

I will let you know how my new mail order relationship is going once my Mark II N arrives. Right now heightened anticipation would best describe it.

"More Deep-Thoughts brought to you by OSP QoftheD"

yeah - how come these are always so complicated? And on on a Monday gosh golly gee!


depends which kind...


biz-friends: hours of intellectually-stimulating-debating-conversation about biz
good-friends: hours of intellectually-stimulating-debating-conversation about everything
more-than-friend: hours of intellectually-stimulating-debating-conversation and the butterflies-that-make-u-feel-like-u-gotta-hurl

I second Monica's vote!

Ummm... not having to date randomly?

The best part of getting married was not having to date anymore! I'm an old, happily married woman!

Old relationships are the best!!! (if we are talking personally, and not professionally)... I love the comfort of old relationships... not as fond of the newness.....

'Ambition is like love, impatient both of delays and rivals. '


Old relationship do have it's charm doesn't it?

Wait, so there's a way to create new relationships?

a hand to hold, seeing someone light up when you walk in a room, lighting up when someone walks in the room, more reasons to laugh...

I'd say it's knowing that things will get even better as the relationship goes along, especially as Apple releases more software and firmware updates.

Remember this: http://davidjay.net/forum/index.php?showto...514&#entry15514

i second that (although its not something i tell wedding clients)



thats the best part of being single for me!

I don't really know what the best thing is... don't really like dating etc.... but I just wanted to observe something about this one!!!


Has anyone noticed that in every post by a male, they're either talking about their toys or denying caring in relationships at all???? And in every post by a female(prior to mine) they are loving the happy 'yeah' feelings that come with them?????

I just think it's fun to note how differently guys and girls think - or at least how funny it is that guys hide those feelings even though they love them just as much as girls when they're in the relationships!

See you all tomorrow night!

Yeah...the different dynamics are soooo funny to observe!

The funny thing is... some guys secretly talk just as much (okay - a LOT MORE) openly amongst themselves about this stuff than even girls do among girls. I've got two or three groups of guy buddies here that are real close....sometimes they slip up and say what they were discussing and us girls are like "WHAT!?! u all talk about that stuff!!"

They're just as bad, they just don't admit it!!!!

Definitely love old relationships too..there's a feeling of richness to it...
and I also love new ones too...OSP family!

I think with new relationships, I stop to think, "Wow, I would have been truly missing out, if I didn't know this person". and this forum!!!

ditto

I have to agree: guys definitely talk about this sort of stuff with other guys A LOT more than we do. My theory is girls talk about it with anyone - be it male or female. Guys only talk to other guys so when they do, it's as if this bottled up back logged ooze of feelings just come pouring out!

Chris (my husband) is a prime example. I gush and gush with him and he gives me these one liner replies. But then we get together with a whole bunch of people and his guy friends dish out everything he says. And I sit there listening to all this and not being able to BELIEVE they are talking about the same man I married 5 years ago and have known since high school!

To answer the question: I love old and new friendships equally. New friendships become old and comfortable real fast for me. And sometimes old friendships become new again. If that makes any sense. Same applies to romantic relationships.

There are times when I look at Chris and feel like wow, we've been together so long! And then, I get hit with this overwhelming sense of newness and a deeper, richer love for him. This especially happens when I see him quietly helping/encouraging others. Perhaps it's the Christ in him that I fall in love with all over again...

I would say that my favorite thing about starting a relationship is that head over heels giddy feeling you get inside when you both realize that you truely resonate....or at least you think you do in some mindless sort of way. I'm still patiently waiting myself.

yeah...and then you date a little more...and then get married....maybe have a child in there or so....and then your spouse cheats and lies and then decides to turn gay on you.

fun fun fun.

OUCH! Tell it like it is Katherine! Don't hold anything back.

Seriously, that is just aweful if that is coming from the voice of experience.

yea i kinda figured this was coming.... it's funny to me how girls think this way. like if a guy says what i said that he is "hiding" his feelings. no way. im being totally honest. i dont hide much, as most of you have probably seen by now (especially in the osp south threads). but yea i dated a girl once, it was fun while it lasted.... learned alot from it, but it's been over 4 years since my last date and i have no desire to go back out on one any time soon. im not saying that will never change, but my feelings are that i really enjoy my lifestyle. i hang out with girls a ton, more than any guy i know, but it's just hanging out and going out occasionally with nothing after. i enjoy that tremendously.

in fact to take it one step further i think our society is way overboard on the whole "always have to be in a relationship" kick. it's ok to be single for a period of time, in fact it's healthy and helps an individual (since a couple is comprised of 2 individuals) become comfortable with oneself... which in turn makes that person more confident and able to give back to others.

how's that for hiding my feelings

Preach it LUKE!!!

Amen!! (waves her white victory hanky)

That was unbelievably refreshing!! Hurray for singledom. Our greatest opportunity for service. IMHO

for me it's a new chance to grow, to learn more about myself and others, to show God's love through my actions.

you got it! that's exactly what I mean by "service"

yeeaaaa

Totally agree!! Dating is soooo overated!!! I like friendships a whole lot better!! Because in a friendship you can really just be yourself rather than trying to impress in a one on one thing...

Sorry guys had to break in with my Barlowgirl theory!!

Realationships???? What's that? I don't have time for a social life. I have my full time job, and I do photography every minute that I am not working or sleeping.

No seriously... I would say the best thing is about new relationships to me is doing all the "firsts" together. You know, first time you really make your mate laugh so hard that they can't breath, the first time to go to the beach together and so on.

I think....it's been so long I can't remember now!

Ok so here's MY honest answer - the best thing about NEW relationships is that you don't know all the yucky stuff about someone that you don't like yet.

Let's face it, even the married people probably dated more than one guy/girl before - we all ended those relationships and most likely because of something we didn't like about that person that had we known from the beginning, we would have not even considered that person!

The best thing about new love is the possibility - the possibility that someone is going to WOW you and bounce off of you until you're both so full of life and possibilities that you can't stop thinking, moving, growing, learning.

(Which I think a year after this post originated, Luke would agree with! )

So how are you feeling about this now lukey pookey???

I suspect he still wants that hug Nathan.





for the girls: I like the new relationship I'm forming with my Car, phone, camera, playstation, *insert other inanimate object*
for the boys: another round??

I'm gonna be honest here..

really

My favorite part of a new relationship is the unknown factor.
It creates that nervousness that you can never recreate. I still remember when I met my wife how nervous I was. I wish I could get that nervous feeling back. It was like a drug, I could feel my heart beat in my throat as I kept thinking to myself "should I kiss her?" "what if she doesn't want me to?" "what will it be like?" "aw hell, go for it!"

I think that is the best part of a new relationship.

Learning about the other person..

I'll be 23 in three months and it's been almost 5 years since I've been in a "new" relationship. The great thing is that after almost 5 years, my relationship still feels new, as far as butterlies, spontaneity and excitement go, but as far as memories, trust and closeness, it feels like we've been together our whole lives. And that's how it was from Day One.

I'm with Crystal, relationships, what's that?? I haven't had a relationship since 2001. Don't really date either, but perhaps it's time to start?

The best thing is definitely the firsts and getting to know each other, but my personal favourite is the missing part. I absolutely love the feeling of missing the person, and knowing he misses me equally much or more. Think it stems from my Uni time.
My ex and I would be apart during the breaks (I'd be in Sweden, he in England). To this day two of my favourite memories from our time together is when I came back after Christmas and summer break. The first time after Xmas (recently together) he knocked on my door, I opened and I swear I've NEVER had anyone hug me as intense, passionate and long in my life. I wasn't prepared at all. Maybe I should have, he wrote me an email after waving me off at the airport, telling how he had found himself crying 'cos he missed me... (and he was the strong, silent type who usually had a poker face).

I miss that feeling.

So, it's been so long, but I think the best part of a new relationship is strolling hand in hand along a lonely beach, staring for hours on end into each others eyes, sighing wistfully as you laugh and cuddle on a park bench surrounded by playing children.... ....and discovering for the very first time.... she shoots Canon and would never THINK of buying a MAC, for cryin' out loud!!!

Wow, I couldn't have said it better... Of course it's awesome when you still get that feeling from time to time, even after ten years have gone by

Hearing all new stories and telling all your old ones!! Looking into their eyes so long that your eyes water, and not wanting to blink to spoil the moment! Getting excited as soon as you wake up!! Can't wait to see them again! Oh man this is fun! oH and the first kiss is out of this world great!

.. the thrill of the unknown...

The secret lives of wedding photographers! I'm another in the camp of what's a relationship, don't remember.

Don't remember!!?? It happened to me last week with my husband of nearly 20 years. It happened the first time I met him and he still does it to me!!
Try to remember, it will come to you!

The best thing about a new relationship is the mystery and nervousness, but I am more of an old relationship person like Amber. I love the comfort of really knowing someone, but one thing that can make a old relationship turn sour is if someone changes within the time of the relationship for the worse (or your "perceived" bad changes). I have been in a relationship when the person becomes more self-centered, selfish, and stubborn. One of the worst feelings in the world is to feel like you don't know the person anymore and talking to them about problems just leads to fights.

The best part is that it gets older with every date.

I couldn't stand the dating scene at all. I was ready to become a catholic priest... seriously.

All that worrying you do to make sure you're looking/acting your best to impress this new person. New relationships remind me of these typical, annoying 'first date' thoughts:

Oh no!! I ALWAYS get a fat zit before a date!
Do I have something stuck in my teeth? Or is anything hanging out of my nose?
Gosh, how can I get away for a minute because I really gotta fart...
What other mundane topics can I talk about to keep this conversation going to an awkward silence?
Should I tell her that story about our camping trip or will it make me look too stupid?
Should I kiss her? Or will she punch my lights out if I try?
etc etc.. blah blah

Put me in the boat of people who like old relationships... or none at all... LOL

I have to agree fully with you and the one you quoted. I have been married almost 12 years and together for 13 1/2. I still get this feeling for my dh from time to time. Especially if we have been apart, like right now he is in Brazil for two weeks and I miss him so.
Cant wait to see him at the airport upon return.
What I do remember liking very much from beeing newly in love, was the butterflies in my tummy and the sense of togetherness and wanting to be as close as possible with this person.

I had fogotten all about that stuff... You know I wouldn't change a thing but, it would be fun to relive it all again...

DJ... You haven't told us your favorite part yet...?