the sex.










well someone had to say it.

I'm with the old relationship crew.....which reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:

"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."
- Captain Corelli's Mandolin

Oh NO! I killed the thread!!

I don't know, maybe being in your avatar. ;-) I'd say getting to know someone and sharing life experiences together.

NO! that is the most logical, yet beautiful thing about love that i've ever heard. seriously.
amen to that.
<3 kristy

Oh good. I thought maybe I got too deep. lol! But this is exactly how i feel about my husband!

that is gorgeous dejah....absolutely gorgeous...

The excitement of getting to know someone.. and realizing that you like them a whole lot. Oh, and not being able to stop smiling

Thank you for that so much. I have been married for 11 years(together for longer). We are having a rough spell. As usual, OSP has enlightend me in many ways. I copied and pasted that to a letter and wrote my feelings on it to him, hoping to bring to light this very impactive point. Thanks again, it was perfect. Beacause I trust all of you I have included the note after he reads the passage. (He would kill me if he knew, but you are my family)

I wrote:
It could not have been said better.
That is what we are. One tree with different branches exposing our differences. It is not a misfortune, it is strength and it is our separate personalities and bodies that makes this tree solid and unmovable. Though one side may crave sunlight while the other is in need of rain is where we must communicate to balance the inequities of our hearts. This is what we need to remember when we look into each others faces. This tree will support the weight of our children as they grow and climb our branches with joy and comfortable abandon, and lean on our trunk and weep when life has taught them a lesson less than perfect. And we will be there when they bring their children to admire our strength and the beauty that has shaded, inspired and protected them to adulthood.

Just remember these things at each days end and beginning and we should be alright.

Marriage has become the most underappreciated and unrecognized accomplishment, but those that have weathered the storms ….know better.

I love you.
Jen




New relationships...Dont know. Its the old ones that are the humdinger.

+1

I have a friend to introduce you to...

happiness.

One of my best friends wrote a song for her boyfriend (now fiance) for Valentine's Day and I love what it said. It holds true for old and new relationships.

When you walk in a room and look at me
You don't see me catch my breath
You reach for my hand and it starts shaking
Heart beat racing, Can you tell
I don't want to stop whats going on inside
When you don't even try...You give me butterflies

Its been so long since I have been in a new relationship...(at least a love relationship) But It seems one of the best things was the anticipation to see and hear from him. EVERYDAY I could hardly think of anything else but HIM!
Now, we have been together for almost 11 years and the anticipation isnt there as much, but I know him and he knows me better than anyone else in the world. We share a million different things together and truthfully, I still think about him all day long!

(I just dont want you to think the excitement goes away!)

PERFECT! Beautiful, well written...I have no idea what you are going thru, but It is SO necessary to recognize that its not the difference you are facing at this present time that really matter, but the ROOTS that you have grown together that matter.

Thanks, I appreciate that.

Yeap, i wish i had someone who thought of me all day long. Like for every passing second in her head, my name would be running through it.

It's a beautiful thing to feel when you're in love.

But it can be as equally devastating when you're out of love and can't let go.

its the conversation you dont want to end ....

I think you broke a lot of hearts with this comment dude .


EDIT: Holly tomale this post is old!!!

"Love is not a state of being; it's a transitive verb."

getting to know someone, and finding that there is common ground there, and also finding that there is not, because then knowing them will open up your world a little bit more. I also love that anticipation of seeing someone that you really feel a connection with, but don't yet know completely.

In the end though, I adore my 7 yearold relationship with my husband. He has been with me through severe illness, the death of a child, the loss of 2 pregnancies, longterm hospitalization of 3 of our 6 kids, troubled pregnancy, job loss, etc, and I love him even more now than when we were first married. I far prefer that feeling of unconditional love and security to the newness of our love. It's not new, but it's still very precious, and steamy.

unfortunately I ended a relationship a couple of months back, but while starting it, I noticed that it really brings light to my shortcomings and makes me want to improve on them.
It can be said that I wanted to change for the sake of the person I was in a relationship with--but I think the changes I wanted to make have benefited me as a person in general--whether I'm in a relationship or not.

You get a clean slate, and hopefully you get to put all the wisdom and knowledge you learnt from your previous relationship to good use.