What was the worst date you were ever on?

(married almost 8 years...)

What's a date?

Why do the old guys jump right on this one first?
I probably shouldn't reveal this but o.k. here goes
I was in love with this girl and nervous and shy.
We went to the movies and I had to go to the bathroom. So I went in and cleaned off the toliet then put toliet paper all around the seat, sat down, took care of business, cleaned up and went back to my seat. Some time later she informed me that I had a tail. I was like "what" looked behind me and sure enough some of the toliet paper I had on the seat got stuck in my pants and was hanging out. Talk about wanting to die on the spot, but why am I telling you this? I must be crazy...oh well it was a long, long time ago but you guys better fess up now
Oh, and this one time at bandcamp...
I was kinda (o.k. a lot) drunk when I met this other girl and didn't recognize her when she answered her door for our date. Can you believe it? Oh to be that young again..........

This could be a good one! hehe

As far as mine...I think the short story will do. It was New Years at a resort far from home...this girl had split a rental house there with her other friends from school. Let's just say I ended up sleeping in my car while she got involved with the relationship fights all her other friends were having with each other. She wasn't there to help either...she was part of the reason for fighting.

Lesson learned...a Toyota Camry makes a great tent even for someone who's 6'3"!

Is there something that triggered this question David?

hmmm... i've had four. dates, that is (i know that's incredibly sad since i'm 27, but nobody ever asks me out...). so, the worst... i guess it would be the double blind date. my friend kristin and i hadnt really wanted to go, but our good friend karen was so excited about it. i met the three of them in minneapolis at the best hole-in-the-wall thai restaurant on the face of the planet. i felt like i was on a date with my little cousins. the age gap was noticeable and the conversation suffocating. not to mention their relentless attempts to play with our feet. at one point, after finding out that i was a kayaker, the least exciting of the two started talking like we had some major connection. i thought, oh, he must be a kayaker. turns out he went once about five years prior for school. it wasn't quite the same. i thought... how sad... it's been what, six years, and this is what i waited for? nothing massively funny, but the other three were pretty tame, so this one had to be it.

Umm....never dated.....

The one I was tricked into!!

So I walk into Gold's Gym, to take a tour and possibly sign up. I'm excited that my tour guy is this guy I know (Carlos) I'm thinkin "Sweet I'm gettin hooked up"

So anyway he gives me a great deal on a membership. As we're wrapping things up he says "So what are you doing tonight?"

I say "I'm thinkin about comin back for some cardio and a movie." (my gym has a cardio theatre. seriously, like a movie theatre but instead of seats, treadmills and stairmasters)

He replies "Well, I usually hang with some friends right over here at Outback want to come?"

"Alright." you know, since it is against my 'be more social Monica policy' to turn down an invitation.

So I go home to change and he calls to say, "I was thinkin BJ's instead."

"Ok."

"So should I pick you up?" He says.

"Um, I know where BJ's is." (it's like one block from my house) I hang up the phone and look at my sister and say "He asked if he should come pick me up?"

Her response, "Uh, it's not a date."

So I'm kind of nervous on my way and he calls again, "Hey I'm at the bar what do you want to drink?" I ask what he's having and order accordingly. I'm thinkin, ok at the bar, people, chit chat that's cool. So I call my sister to let her know everything is cool.

I get there, and first of all it's like walking into my high school cafeteria. There's a ton of people I haven't seen in forever. I see him at the bar and as I'm walking toward him some guy yells over to him "Hey Carlos..." so I think, ok that must be his table. So I stop and introduce myself, he comes over, hands me my drink introduces me to everyone and says "Alright, see you guys later." And they're all like, "Have a good dinner."

"Uh, where are we going?"

"Our table is right over here."



Did I mention he's like 5 years younger than me?? Ok 3 but still. The point is HE TRICKED ME!!! I mean you could've asked!!

Anyway, I'm sitting there trying to coach myself because I'm kind of annoyed but I don't want to make the guy feel bad. But, I have to admit I was unusually critical under the circumstances. Just relax and enjoy yourself Monica.

So, the restraunt is closing down. I order my sister her ice cream cookie thingy. As we're walking out he says (baitingly) "So do your parents still make you come home before midnight?"

"NO!!" (what are you nuts??)

"Well come check out my new house."

(DOPH!!Tricked again!!) Ok I remember what it was like when I bought my house I was excited and wanted everyone to come see it too. How am I gonna get out of this one??

"My sister's ice cream is gonna melt."

"I have a freezer."

CRAP!! you've gotta be kidding me, why am I too nice??...alright I'll come see your house. My sister is dying as I'm following him to his house and giving her the play by play. So of course she calls me back, like 5 min after we get there, to bail me out.

UNbelievable!!!

I get it!!! This is totally a dating service....with all these questions!!

I remember my first date and am so embarressed looking back. I was in seventh grade and liked this boy so much and his friends made him go to the putt putt with me. My mom is a little eccentric sometimes, so we both got really excited and she made me a date outfit, which consisted of blue spangled shorts and a red striped top. (I think it was around Fourth of July) We went putt-putt and he was super nice, and I was so excited!

But every time I think back about that day I think about that horrible outfit. Those shorts were Jams, do you remember those? The long shorts to your knees? Ugly....

Monica... LOL...that cracked me up!! Doesn't it stink when they're all sneaky like that!?!

Hmmm...really bad one... I can't think of one that really sticks out as being horrible. Plenty that were nothing-special but nothing bad about them. I did have a de-ja-vous date-spot though....long story though.



My FRIEND Carrie though has a REALLY BAD date story.

She and I moved to Atlanta about the same time and she met this guy Doug - went on a really great first date and he called her for the second.
When he called, he mentions wanting to take her to the theater and asks if she'd be offended if there was brief nudity. She says no big deal and is excited to go.

So they get there and the play is called "Puppetry of the Penis." Two guys in NOTHING but SOCKS standing on the stage for two hours By themselves making puppets out of their we-wees!!!

She gives a very detailed account of her disbelief of how they could make hamburgers and hotdogs and animals out of them and then they asked an audience member to go up and participate!!! Eweeee. Her date wanted to volunteer!!!!

She said "I had four cranberry and vodkas just to make sure I was seeing what I was seeing." LOL. Needless to say, she called our friend to come pick her up before the grand finale and left her date there wondering where she had gone.....

GROSS!!!!! (insert:throwing up smilie!)

What do you mean, hamburgers, hotdogs and animals??

I have a feeling that WHOLE skit could have come from just one evening at summer camp. All evening long the boy cabins are roaring from their antics. I think the girl cabins actually talk about things. Anyway: great story, horrible date.

Ha ha! When you said socks I thought of Red Hot Chili Peppers concerts. I didn't get it at first. I thought you meant sock puppets! So Nasty!

OK. . .many years ago, I was set up on a blind date. My friends told me this woman had a thing for Mercedez Benz automobiles, (which should have been my first clue), so I thought of a great ice-breaker. We met at the restaurant and started the small talk. She gets around to, "So what kind of car do you have?" I say, "A Mercedez. Would you like to see it?" And I pull a Mercedez Benz Hot Wheels car out of my pocket for her! (Just so you know, I've never owned a real Mercedez.) She wasn't as amused as I was. During the dinner, I find out that she's an amateur photographer. But I knew she wasn't for me. . .she shoots Nikon! Never saw her again. . .

Mine was in high school. My senior year my best friend decided that we just had to go to Homecoming and she would go with anyone in order to go. She also made it clear that I had to go and she would get me a date. I told her one person I absolutely would not go with. So later that day she walks up to me, with this guy and says "Isn't it great, you and ----- (no name, I grew up in Santa Barbara and you never know when someone you know might read stuff you post) are going to go to Homecoming together. I couldn't very well say no way, since he was standing there, so I agreed. She somehow ended up going with a freshman and a third friend ended up with some guy she thought she liked, but was really a jerk. So we all go together. My date spent dinner blatantly flirting with my best friend, which neither she nor I appreciated. I am pretty sure my friends date had no brain. And the third girls date was mad at her by the time we got to dinner because he swore that she was flirting with every guy we saw (she wasn't). By the time we actually got to the dance none of us were speaking to our dates. We spent most of the evening in the bathroom with one of my friends in tears. Then we went back to one of the other girls houses and were supposed to "hang out for a while." All I wanted to do at this point was to go home, but didn't have a ride. I was so peeved at my own date that I asked one of the other guys to give me a ride home. Big Mistake! He was furious with his date, so he drove like a total maniac (for you Santa Barbarans, he was winding through Hope Ranch at about 100 miles and hour, then headed up San Marcos Pass to my house at the same speeds.) I truly thought I was going to die and was trying to figure out how to jump out of a moving car in a formal dress. He did end up getting me home and dumped me at the end of my driveway, which was really long and then took off. The best part about the night was that when we got our pictures back, non of the ones with the guys turned out, so we didn't have to look at their faces.

That is great!
I cant believe you actually bought a toy to pull off that line.
TO freaking funny.

HUgs from your President!

L.

So, I'm reading along and I think to myself, "hey, I've heard this story" and I look over and it's Lynn writing. And no, I wasn't her date. I didn't know her in high school. But our first date was kind of funny, but it doesn't belong here because it turned out OK in the end. Well, three years later.

I think my worst date was w/ my husband. I'm not really a dater though. I always had the same boyfriends for years, even in middle school. I dated this one guy for like 7 years off and on. (this is counting the crush I had on him for 3)
When I fall in love it's forever.
anyway......................

I think the worst date I was ever on was with my husband at prom 1998. A group of about 20 of us when out to dinner afterwards. My DH and my BF got into the biggest fight ever, and he gave me an altimatium (sp) to either leave with him or he is gone.

I said this is my prom i'm not leaving. get over it. so he just left me there. no money no nothing. My friend had to pay for both of our meals. I get back to a hotel where we rented for a party and he was there and I kicked him out in front of everyone. Then the fight went into the parking lot and the hotel manager kicked us all out. lol.

Then he just walked away and I was so mad, I just let him go. But then felt bad and had to go track him down on the hwy in my car.

man, that was the worst. But we both were like 17! LOL!!

~Alisha

LOL!! This is so me to Alisha!! I once had a 7yr relationship. 6yrs in my head and one year umm... hang out buddies???

(we're still friends)

Mine was a little over five years ago.

I met this girl at church through her brother and we decided to drive up to Santa Barbara for the Orchid Festival.

We had an okay time. It was a little cold but on the way back to LA, she fell asleep in the middle of our conversation. How rude!

Anyway, we ended up getting married about five months later.

My worst date was oh.. back around 7th grade. Met this girl at camp that I was totally crazy about. For about two weeks after camp we talked on the phone every day. Finally we arranged for a double date: her and I, accompanied by her friend with another guy from camp. So we go to the bowling alley and the two girls and I sit waiting for like 30 minutes for this other guy to show up. He never did. And the girls said it wouldnt be any fun without him. They spend like an hour trying to get a hold of him on the phone and then decided to just leave. We didnt even do anything. It was so depressing

The next week I fell in love with someone else and it was all good

ahh.. the good old days..

LOL...Aww...

I didn't really start dating until I moved from Hawaii to here in Louisiana. I met this guy at church. He sang in the choir and I played the violin in the orchestra....so we always saw each other every week during practices and what not. He was soooo hot....but that's all my impression was. One night he asked me if I wanted to get something to eat after church and we went to some local restaurant here. So...there I was...sitting across from him observing every little thing about him....adoring him until I noticed his table manners. My mother always told me that you can tell a lot about a person by their table manners.

Just trying to remember this date makes me wanna gag and a half already.

So there I was...trying to have a deep meaningful conversation. Asking him what type of books he reads and he tells me (which he tells me later that it was because he was nervous)..."Alice In Wonderland"....TURN OFF NUMBER ONE. Then he goes on and on about how proud his family is because he's the only one to graduate from high school (all his brothers dropped out)...TURN OFF NUMBER TWO!!!! I'm sitting there...appetite pretty much ruined...and then next thing I know...he's wiping his mouth with his shirt collar with food and sugar packets around his plate...MAJOR TURN OFF THREE. (I HATE PEOPLE WITH BAD TABLE MANNERS!!!)....

Then...to make things worse...the waitress comes with the check...the check just sits there...and I asked, "Do you need help with the bill?"....and he just said, "You don't mind?"...and I had to pay for the whole meal!!!!:o

Gag gag gag me with a spoon.

KK

Katherine,

When David first started posting these questions, I was bummed that you were dissconnected. It's good to see you're catching up.

awww...Monica...glad to be back...I soooo have missed being here. I LOVE THIS PLACE....too bad I'm tipsy half the time

Not worst, but close. Back when I was young and stupider, which is distinctly different from being young and more stupid, I was kind of dating two girls at the same time except they didn't know it.
Girl A, who was the sexy girl in the "in" crowd, brings me to this very cool Italian coffee house/dessert place with an outdoor grotto of trees lit up (think white Christmas lights) and a trio singing Sinatra and Dean Martin, which even at the age of 19 I thought was very romantic. We had a great time. We had a crush/crushee relationship. I had the crush.

Girl B was a sweetheart and beautiful, but I never knew where I stood with her emotionally.
The next night, I took girl B there, thinking she would love it, and there is no way that girl A is going to be there again.
Wrong.

Girl A is sitting with a bunch of friends in the corner. As we sat down, just 2 tables away, I excused myself and freaked out. I was gone a good 10 minutes freaking out about:
1) how stupid I was
2) how am I going to get out of this without getting busted
3) if I had to choose one...right then...on the spot, which one would it be
4) how stupid i was

I bravely asked the waiter to let my date know I was ill and requested her to meet me at the car. I suck. I was an ass. I told her I didn't feel well and we ended up back at my place with takeout and a movie. Worse...we had really good sex.

I dated B for another year after that. I stopped dating A after a few weeks. I was on and off more than friends with A for 7 years more until I realized she was nuts. Years after my foolishness, she told me that she saw me, knew exactly what was going on and was not going to bust me. Girl B later told me that she also knew something was up, but was happy because I choose her.

Did I mention I was stupid back then?

Went on a blind date once, ( the girl had actually stood me up months before when I arrived at her house, she was a no show. So she wanted to try again) I picked her up and we were going to go to the movies but we were running alittle late. So we went to Steak & Shake to sit and talk. The converstaion ran dry after about 3 secs. I went over EVERYTHING possible to talk and and she gave me one word answers. I almost got up and left her there. She I decided to take her home. Catching every single redlight home and making the situation even more weiiirddd. So this light started to change to red and I geared my car down and punched it!! I could see her look at me as I ran the redlight. Needless to say but I pulled up at the house and she got out with nothing to say. On another note I think she was just getting back at me since I ditched her bestfriend a year earlier.. oh well...

Honestly, can't really remember a "bad" date. I think pretty much anytime someone asks me out or I ask someone out that I'm interested in, and they/I accept I've already won half the battle.

That said, I"ve had uncomfortable dates, quiet dates, loud obnoxious dates. But all I was interested in beforehand. And for me, just one date doesn't determine ANYTHING. Even if it seemed horrible, it was almost always worth a second/third chance-especially if it was just shy, quietness. If it didn't work out, it was usually because I just expected more and was disappointed.

Has anyone tried the online dating thing? I have and my experience was pretty good, just didn't turn out like I had wanted but it was good. Met a great girl but there just wasn't any spark...but it did last a good 2 months...that's about how long it sometime takes to get a good feel for if things will get better or worse.

But the fact that I actually HAD a date at all was always a good thing. I've never had, let's say, a Something About Mary moment...thankfully.

I have tried it for years. I found several great relationships on it, and several duds. I liked it.
Heck, I met my Wife on JDate!
Yesterday was our 2 year anniversary. And life is so good!
We are having our first child in Jan.

OMG this is too good. I still say "what was I thinking" when I think about this date.

In college I worked at a bar and another local bar owner had a crush on me, I turned him down on so so many occasions and then finally gave in. He was supposed to meet me down town for first friday (here in Philly first Friday is the opening night for all the art galleries in Old City) I am hanging out with another friend waiting for him and he calls to say he is late, ok whatever. Then calls to say something about how he can't get down there, my friend and I had pretty much finished looking through the galleries at this point and the nice person I am offered to pick him up.

So I go to pick him up, yeah what was I thinking? It took me forever to find. I pick him up, oh he was late because he was doing laundry, just remembered. Anyway, we are in the car heading back into the city and about half way there he does the "pocket pat" "Oh I forgot my wallet" WHAT!?!?!?!?!?! OMG, I should have just dumped him on the curb right then. But stupid me didn't.

We go to his bar, yeah come on he is a bar owner the guy should be able to get some cash, he makes me wait in his disgusting office upstairs before we head out to get something to eat. Then when we go downstairs to leave one of his bouncers stops him asks him something and he says oh do you mind if I take care of something, finally I spoke up and said ya know I am just going to call it a night, c-ya.

The nerve. Worst date ever, and with a guy I wasn't even interested in.

I had a couple of dates where the girl never showed which was a bit disappointing. I can't say I've ever had a bad date. Bad relationships, yes - and I got out of them ASAP.

Oh, I've had *lots* of bad dates. This one is fairly amusing though...

****Graphic, don't read if you're easily offended*****

I had known this guy for several years. I was bartending and cocktailing at a local club and he worked in another club that was owned by the same guy. All the people from both clubs would always go to breakfast together after work so, we saw each other often and were friendly I guess, never really talked much, but we knew each other to an extent.

One night after a staff meeting he asked if I wanted to go grab dinner and hang out & watch a movie. I really didn't think of it as a date - at all - more like a friendly "hey, let's hang out" kind of thing. So we grabbed dinner, chit chatted, and went to his place to watch a movie.

Thank God I drove seperately.


He puts in this movie - and it looked like the worst B movie ever. Crappy looking titles, bad music, bad quality. In the opening scene theres a mom fixing breakfast for her (adult) son. They sit down and eat, then start er, *having sex* on the kitchen table. The freak put in some kind of weird incest porno movie! I totally faked being sick (I had to work with the guy so I didn't want to make some scene) and immediately left.

Not a fun 'date'.

Lol. Reminds me of what as 16-year olds we did occasionally. I'd slip to a shop where I knew I could buy beer and where I would not be challenged on age. I bought the beer and my friend would go to some place where he knew somebody and he'd get some porn films and we'd sit in his parents house and watch porn films while we drank beer and he smoked his pipe (smoking never appealed to me).

Funnily enough, it was with a photographer!!

I was a freshman in college, and I went out with what seemed a cool, older student...

He took me to his place, where he made a great meal, and everything was actually going pretty well!

...until he wanted to show me his portfolio.

At first, his "portfolio" just looked like very mediocre glamor-shots type portraits of girls in pretty dresses and other fancy outfits... then we got further into the portfolio, where he showed me photos of the same girls in lingerie and swimsuits ... I started to get a little uncomfortable, and told him as much, but he said, "Oh! Don't worry about it... these girls were all my girlfriends at one time or another..."

Then we get to the end of the "portfolio"... many of the same girls from before... now nude, and NOT tastefully nude at all!

I asked him to drive me home right away. (Nicely! I didn't wanna piss this creep off, honestly!) On the way, he was telling me all about how photogenic he thought I'd be, and if I had any nice outfit that I wanted to model for him, he'd be happy to "make room in his schedule..."

NO THANKS.

Classic.

I'm dying here...

It seems like many of these are Blind Date stories....that should you something. Here's mine:

In high school I went with a friend to pick up his girlfriend and another girl I was getting fixed up with. We went to one of those crappy carnivals that appear in your town for a few days that always seem a little seedy. Anyway, we decided to go on one of those rides that spin around and up and down, I think it's called The Octopus, or something. I never have a problem on rides like that, until then. I was feeling really sick, so I turned my head and threw up off the side of the ride then turned back and tried to pretend like nothing had happened and I was really cool. Talk about sexy!!

After the carnival, the girl made a very hasty exit (who can blame her!) then I had to wait in the car for an hour and half while my friend went into his girlfriend's apartment and had some "fun".

Good times.

Dan

I will have to admit that I was the bad date on this one. I was in collage, in a fraternity, and social chairman to put together all the parties. Put all these 3 together and alcohol and it spells disaster. This was a blind date, and the only date I had with her. I was getting all the decorations done, the food and set up for the party, I didn't get a chance to eat all day. So I race home to get ready and have some cocktails, and pick up my date. We hit it off, talk, drink, talk, drink, hang with some friends, do some drinking with shots. Oh yeah, and all the food was gone too, so I never got a chance to eat. You get the idea where this is going. Anyways, don't remember much after that, except, that she called my roommate to say that I had left her at the party. My roommate comes to pick her up, looks around for me and finds me passed out in the bathroom. I was so embarassed, never had I been like that before. Needless to say she didn't want to go on a second date.

I was 18 it was Christmas 1984 and I finally plucked up the courage and decided to ask out a girl who I had known through friends for a couple of years.

Mistake N0 1
Took her to the cinema which was a mistake as the only theater that had room was showing Nightmare on Elm Street . The girl spent the whole time hiding under her coat peaking out every couple of minutes with the words " is it over yet " We left after 25 mins .

Mistake NO 2
I had booked a table at a restaurant which was the best steak house ever. Turned up sat down she looked me straight in the eye and said " don't you know im vegetarian. We left immediately.

Mistake NO 3 ( The big mistake )
I offered to see her home. After 2 trains a bus ride and a 15 minute walk in the rain we arrived at her parents house. Her anxious protective dad happened to be at the main door looking worried, he invited me in and offered me a drink. He disappeared off into the kitchen. Myself and my date sat next to each other with a safe 1ft gap. Her mother was sitting in an armchair with a serious face and box of chocolates next to her on a small table. After an awkward silence which seamed to last forever she reached out her arm with the chocolates in hand and said " liquors ". Just then dad arrived back with drinks in hand to hear me reply " No lick your own like everyone else ". She gave me the look of thunder got up and left the room shaking her head. Dad meanwhile was collapsed in a corner laughing. My date just sat looking at me in disbelief. After recovering from the shock my dates dad offered me a lift home and just kept laughing and saying you'll pay for that.

I'm still paying for it 23 years later its still the family Christmas story and yes every Christmas I get a box of liquors from one family member or another.

I've had lots of bad dates. I guess I'm A) not a good judge of character and B) too nice (or chicken) to say no when I really should.

One that sticks out in my mind was in my first year of college. This guy I never saw before asked me out to a movie. He was kind of skeezy looking but I said yes against my better judgement. I spent quite a while getting ready for him to pick me up. You know, the hair, the makeup, changing the clothes 6 times to make sure I've got it right. I didn't know anything about the guy and what to expect so I was second guessing myself the whole time. I get in his car and the first thing he says to me is "I can see you didn't spend a lot of time getting ready for this, but I want you to know you still look good." o-KAY.

Then he takes me to a drive in! Uh-oh. I spent the entire night trying to get as far away from him as I possibly could in the car. I was smooshed up against the car door so when he pressed even closer I actually fell out of the car! Then I got into the back seat and told him to take me home. It was a cold, silent ride back.

About 3 weeks later I'm hanging out in the library with my friends and he comes up to me. I haven't seen him since the date. He pulls me aside and says "I dont think this is working out. I want to break up." ????? Break up??? HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA That must have been the easiest break up I've ever had.

I don't think I've ever had a bad one.. I of course cannot speak for the girls I was dating at the time.. I'm sure I'm someone's horrible date story somewhere. I'm just glad I wasn't a jerk when I met Laura, I could never be mean to her!

Now meeting Laura was a weird story.. a mutual friend set us up by lying to us both, our engagement story was nearly a disaster, and her ring involves a pawn shop and gambling... All the makings of a good wholesome marriage eh?

Ok, I can jump in here.

I met a girl online that seemed real nice. No photo. Big mistake! I know looks are important, but still...

She was local and there were no obvious red flags in our correspondence.

I drive up and think I have just walked into a Jeff Foxworthy comedy routine. I think her family was shocked that I was not in a rusted old pickup with big tires. The first sight of her and I am regretting this whole thing, but I am committed to at least see it through.

She is one of the homeliest girls I have ever seen. She is basically deformed, with no chin. I mean no chin at all. I swallow my pride and take her, as planned, to a nice Italian restaurant. It becomes clear that this girl has never been to any restaurant nicer than McDonalds. Everyone who sees us thinks this must be a charity date and I can almost feel strangers patting me on the back to tell me how great it is that I am taking this girl out. I can almost here them say, "That's really big of you. I couldn't do it, but it's great to see someone do it." We drop by my apartment so she can see my dog which we had talked about over dinner. I take her home. She introduces me to her folks. The house has a terrible odor and is pretty filthy. I see cats walking along the kitchen counter and then she takes me to see a box full of kittens. I think the sheer number of cats is contributing to the smell.

Anyway, the evening ends and I leave thinking "never again." She seems to think we would continue going out but I let her down gently in an email.

I didn't conventionally date, I kinda felt like it's a recipe for fakery and way too much stress. All the relationships I had, thankfully enough, developed out of pre-existing friendships.

I had a bad "date night" with a boyfriend, though. He'd said since we hadn't formally dated before getting together and we were so busy with our lives without much money in our bank accounts, we could schedule a date night back and forth. He said he'd come up with the first one and I'd plan the second. He decided to make it into more of a date weekend, where he took me to another city to visit some friends of his. His friends, and a young married couple, seemed nice enough at first and were pretty much going to let us have free reign of the house that weekend. Well, long story short he told them we'd do some cleaning for them as a kind of recompense but then he bailed on me...so I spent three hours washing dishes and scrubbing counters while he laughed it up with his friends. I tried not to let it bother me, but things keep getting worse and worse. I found myself babysitting crackheads and drunks that night before they all left for a rave. Erg. Okay, the next night his big surprise is a porno. Doesn't raise any eyebrows from me, I'm cool with that. Until I realize that it's a porno about two men violently killing a woman and then having sex with her dead body for 85% of the flick. I broke up with him soon after that.

Anyway, I've never been a bad date because of not going on many formal dates...but I kinda broke this one guy's heart and still feel bad about it. He was good looking, humble, funny, a writer to boot. He was totally head over heels for me, but at the time I thought he liked me but that it was just in passing, nothing really very serious...and to be honest I could have cared less because I was obsessed with this married guy who was a complete asshole, of course. Anyway, I only recently realized that the reason we drifted apart was that the writer guy felt really bitter about the way I didn't give him the time of day. I've never found the words to say, "I was a complete idiot and I'm so sorry I stomped your heart into the ground."

Oh goodness which one to tell? I could tell you the one where I went on a date with a Cop and he actually arrrested soemone on our date, or the blind date I was set up on with a guy named Roach, the date where we went to an art show and the guy made his own HUGE dinner out of the hor derves, one where the guy had an allergic reation to something and his eyes swelled up so badly that we had to take him to the ER.

I guess the worst date was when I went to dinner with this guy and he kept saying stuff like "would you like an appetiser to nosh on or would you like to go straight to desert and nosh on me?" NOSH????? Anyway so we finish the dinner and I had no intentions of going out with this guy again, and he asked me back to his house, in a town 30 miles away, late at night! I politely declined, and then he said "that's okay, you are a nice girl and all but I am not sure my kids would appreciate having such a young mother" WHAT?? He had failed to mention that he had 3 tween aged kids and he was looking for a mother for them.

oh and the appetiser he picked? Stuffed Zucchini LOL

you know there is going to be trouble when, while waiting for your table, your date orders two beers. for each of you. then, ends up drinking yours before you even get to the table. it was embarrassing to have your first date with a guy who says.. well, if you aint gonna drink it, pass it on over here....

nuff said?

ok. so pretty much drunk during dinner (and its not a 'fun' drunk, its a slurring your words embarrassing drunk) - he accidentally cuts himself while cutting his steak. we are at Ruth's Chris steak house in houston, not one of the best but it is a nice restaurant. i am worried about getting in the car with him but i did since we were just going down the street (richmond avenue) to another bar/club. thankfully we were close enough to a girlfriends house that i was able to sneak away and walk to her house.

i never saw the guy again, thankfully.

My worst date was probably my 2nd date of my life. I was 14, he was 18 (we met through friends who were dating) we went to the mall for dinner and just to walk around.

After dinner, he headed directly for the movie store and spent half an hour picking out a new porn video for himself.

For some reason I was still bummed that he didn't kiss me goodnight. Never saw him again.

Funny thread, so here goes....

I'd known a girl for about 6-8 months and been interested in her for most of that time, but she had a boyfriend. So they had broke up about 2 months prior and I finally ran in to her in a situation where I could ask her out. Fortunately she said yes. So I plan out a nice dinner in a little cafe on the river. I figure drinks and a nice dinner then may head out to a club or whatever. I hop in the car and am driving to pick her up. All of a sudden, BLAM, this car hits me head on. I remember sliding down the road thinking "I've never seen an airbag before." and that that it was kind of cool. Anyway, I'm not hurt at all, my car it totaled however. I have no cell phone on me, and as I'm giving my statement to the police my roommate drives by, sees me sitting in the hood of my totaled car talking to the cops and keeps going. Luckily the driver got arrested for DUI and my roommate was only going up the road to turn around. I finally get to her apartment to pick her up about 2 hours late. I knock on the door and her friend answers the door with this "I can't believe you have the nerve to still show up 2 hours late, scumbag, look on her face." Her first words were "You'd better have a really good excuse jackass!" I tell the story about the crash and everything and apparently it was good enough, but somehow dinner down the street at the restaurant we walked to was not the same. We ended up dating for about 6 months though, but it sure was a crummy start. The only 2 car accidents I've ever been in were both on 1st dates, and neither was my fault.

Hey DJ,

Is it just me or do you never give your own answer your own questions.

Haha...I'll have to think about this one. fortunately I don't have any real horror stories but I'll see if I can think of what the worst one was.

Not the worst, because I don't remember one, but I will definately tell you an embarassing one!

At the time I was dating a guy in college. He was a transfer student both of us 'seniors' in credit hours but nothing else. I was getting to know him, and felt I trusted him enough to take him to the craft center to show him how to throw pots, something I did with a lot of my friends. Well we made it there and back, got some pics and made some pots, and went to fazoli's for dinner. He was running in a trail race the next day so he said it would be good to 'carbo load'. We got our food and we're eating...when I reach for my water and miss, spilling the entire thing on his tray...and lap! (He was wearing khaki shorts, to make things worse!) Thank goodness he liked me enough after that one to as me to marry him a couple years later!